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Parenting From the Heart
In Christian parenting, our goal is to bring our children into a living relationship with our Creator God by preparing them to respond early in life to God's personal call to salvation. One of our most important tasks is helping to build our child's foundational understanding of God's love and grace. A wise master-builder begins with a detailed plan to guide and order their building activities. A builder's plan, or blueprint, is used to visualize the completed end result before the building starts to make sure that all the individual project elements come together perfectly during construction to provide the desired functionality and finish.
Strong Foundations are the Key to Future Success
For a building, the foundation comes first and everything else depends on the strength of the foundation to support it. Starting with a firm foundation is essential as it is very difficult and costly to compensate for weak foundations once the structure is built. Weak foundations only become apparent under load, when the house settles and things meant to be soundly connected pull apart. There is a limited time window during construction when the foundations are laid, and that is the time to dig down to remove the loose soil and gravel. Jesus told His disciples that listening to His teaching and keeping His commands was like a wise man who dug deep to build his house on the secure foundation of rock:
“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.” Matthew 7:24-29
It is essential to develop your own knowledge and understanding of Biblical teachings on disciplining children so you can take full advantage of that important window of time when your children are still young, impressionable, and easily teachable. Your parental instruction at the outset of their lives helps form your child's understanding of God and His creation. More than anything else, your interaction as parents with your young child will help to shape how they respond to God's authority later as adults. Strong childhood spiritual foundations lead to a healthy walk with God in the teen-age years and beyond. Our early efforts have an enduring result, and the effort we expend on the foundation will pay off, just as any shortcuts we take will likewise cause structural problems later.
Parents want their children to be happy and successful as adults, but often undermine their prospects for success by permissive and undisciplined parenting during early childhood. Undiscerning parents are often led astray by the many popular, but anti-Biblical teachings on parenting infused across almost every aspect of modern culture. Make no mistake about it, if you welcome erroneous ideas from popular culture into your home, you will weaken the long-term spiritual health of your family! The Bible-based information you'll find here is designed to help you implement a clear and winning strategy for training your children to walk in the way of truth. Training children in accordance with Biblical truth can result in a unique family experience where love and harmony is the norm, rather than the exception. In short, our method is to define success by the standards and teachings found in the Bible. Rather than critique the Bible by modern ideas we prefer to examine modern ideas by the Bible. If there is a difference of opinion we are going to stick with what the Bible teaches. God has undertaken to reveal to man what we need to know about him through the words of the Bible.
We have great confidence and trust in the unchanging truth found in the Bible and seek to encourage your own confidence in the Word of God. To this end we encourage you to carefully research the teachings of Scripture. As you read our materials, test and prove every idea and thought to see if it conforms with the Bible. We also believe Christians need to participate with a sound Bible-teaching local church. We encourage you to meet regularly with other faithful believers for fellowship and Bible study.
What We Believe About Parental Success
Advice on solving family problems is easy to give, but not easy to implement! Successfully working through family problems requires many small steps of obedience to God's Word. It often takes an extended period of time and a measure of patience before the results begin to show. We don't promise instant results from Bible truth, but we can assure you of eventual results! We are fully convinced the key to solving the most complex family problems is to faithfully follow God's instructions. We believe God instructs individuals by engaging their understanding of His truth through reading and meditating on the Bible.
We recommend each person start every day by reading God's Word, the Bible! No matter how deep in trouble you find yourself, if you'll read your Bible attentively for a few minutes each day God will meet you where you are. Reading the Word of God will give you insight and understanding of your current circumstances and help you to take the next step of faith in walking with God. Let God demonstrate how insights from His Word can provide practical answers about families, children, and your life in particular. You are never far from finding lasting solutions to your problems if you ask God to give you wisdom! God can help you in your current situation, even if you're desperate and don't know what to do.
We encourage you to seek practical Biblical advice from someone who lives in a way that clearly demonstrates trust and confidence in God's Word. Truth will help you succeed as a husband, wife, mother, father, and parent. Christians who trust God will open the spiritual door that allows Him to speak. His truth can easily be found by reading and studying the Bible when we come before Him in sincere prayer with humility .
All Families Have Their Problems
When we were younger, it would have been a great encouragement to have an older, wiser, and experienced Christian couple, tell us: "You know, in the past, we used to have a lot of problems. We fought and argued when we were first married, but we were persistent; God worked things out for us and now we're very happy!" It would have been such an encouragement for us when we first married to realize a certain amount of strife in the start of a marriage was normal, and to be expected.
Couples can trust God to work everything out in time. You and your spouse may think that you are the ones in church with family problems. It's very common for Christians to hide their failures and share only their successes! At first, Sallie and I were surprised how frequently we experienced conflict in our marriage. We thought we were the only ones with arguments and disagreements until much later, when we discovered how many Christian couples hide their unhappy marriage beneath happy "go to church faces."
If you've been spared the conflict we've experienced and would just like to make your "good" marriage even better, we rejoice with you! We hope you’ll find resources at our web site to keep your marriage growing stronger each day. Marriage is designed to transform and strengthen both husband and wife. One of the main reasons for marriage is to pass the torch of faith from one generation to the next. A vibrant, strong, and spiritually growing marriage relationship is essential to lead your children to a living faith. Despite our rocky beginning, God blessed our home. We are quite happy today. While we never considered ours a "model home," more than once our friends and acquaintances offered to swap their children for ours. We're sure most of them were joking, but a few times our friends sounded like they hoped we would take the trade! Ruth and Tim weren’t perfect, but we were blessed to skip the experience of rebellious and unmanageable children. For us, parenting has been a sweet experience with few regrets!
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